I love fans, hand fans that is. They are pretty, they keep you cool on a hot day, and I’ve discovered, they are perfect for fanning the flames of romance.
I read that fans were used as a form of nonverbal communication by the ladies and gentlemen of the sixteenth century — to communicate discreet messages of love.
I don’t know.
But it intrigued me enough to investigate further. I also went looking for my own beautiful fan, a present from my daughter a few years ago.
It seems that the way you hold the fan, how much it is opened or the direction you place it, has a significance in the language of romance.
A fashion accessory with it’s own flirtation language . . . fascinating, don’t you agree?
For you coquettes, here’s a few gestures and meanings to get you started:
Placing your fan near your heart ❧ I love you
Letting the fan rest on the right cheek ❧ Yes
Letting the fan rest on the left cheek ❧ No
Dropping the fan ❧ We will be friends
Fanning slowly ❧ I am married
Fanning quickly ❧ I am engaged
Drawing the fan across the eyes ❧ I am sorry
To open a fan wide ❧ Wait for me
A half closed fan pressed to the lips ❧ You may kiss me
Twirling the fan in the right hand ❧ I love another
Twirling the fan in the left hand ❧ We are being watched
Shutting a fully open fan slowly ❧ I promise to marry you
A closed fan resting on the right eye ❧ When can I see you
Carrying a open fan in the left hand ❧ come and talk to me
Touching the tip of the fan with a finger ❧ I wish to speak to you
From www.avictorian.com which has a comprehensive list of fan flirtation rules and meanings. It’s also a wonderful resource if you’d like to know more about the history and language of the fan.
I hope this has prompted you to find a fan and educate your friends (male and female) on the fantabulous language of the fan.
Do you have a beautiful fan? Send me a photo and I’ll share it here!